Dark Night Of The Soul – Death Of The Ego

What is Dark Night of the Soul? It isn’t necessarily one night; it can be any amount of time.

Dark Night of the Soul is usually a quick period of time that you feel disconnected from everything and everyone in your world.

During this time, you feel completely alone. You feel as though no one understands what you are going through. You don’t understand why you are here on earth.

There are a lot of questions and confusion during Dark Night of the Soul. It is more than feeling sad; you are mourning for the loss of that which you once were.

The Death of the Ego

Dark Night of the Soul is essentially the death of the ego. It can be scary because you know that something is changing but you don’t know what lies ahead. The unknown can cause you to panic.

You are in a limbo period between the death of the ego and the enlightenment that lies ahead. You need to experience this transitioning phase before you can move forward on your spiritual journey.

Your Higher Self Chooses to Experience Dark Night of the Soul

Not everyone goes through Dark Night of the Soul. Some souls choose not to, and some are evolved enough that they don’t have to. Certain people can handle it better and therefore don’t experience it to the same extreme as others.

It is a choice you make before you come to earth. It is a time where your higher self has chosen to move forward on its spiritual path and therefore has to release all of the old which includes the ego.

My Experience with Dark Night of the Soul

I had this experience a few years ago.  It happened out of the blue where I didn’t think I could be on this earth anymore.

It left me so depressed that I could barely take care of myself. I could hardly move or talk to anyone. I was like a zombie going through the motions of life, nothing interested me and I didn’t care about anything.

Every day during this period I prayed that some force would come to earth and take me away. Even though I did fight it, I knew deep down inside that it was something I had to go through. If I had let it play out and accepted what was happening, it would have been a much easier transition.

My experience with Dark Night of the Soul was pretty extreme and therefore only lasted a few days. I don’t think my body would have been able to handle any more than that.

All that I did for those few days was shower and sleep. I couldn’t even eat and just wanted to sleep my life away. I felt happier sleeping than being awake, it was my escape to a world where there was no pain.

Water was very cleansing to me at that time. It was so difficult to move and I could barely walk as it took everything in me to function. During this time, I didn’t want to go on.  

Why Would Anyone Choose to Go Through Dark Night of the Soul?

We experience Dark Night of the Soul to clear all the things we have been holding onto that no longer serve us. It strips us of all that negative junk so we can move on to things that are more of our purpose in this life.

Once the ego dies we know we can never go back to what we once were. We have moved to a new enlightened place. It is a painful experience but necessary to move forward. It lifts us to a higher consciousness.

I also feel like it gives our higher self a choice to stay here or to leave this physical plane. It is always your choice if you want to continue on with your journey in life or leave the physical plane.

Even though at the time you might feel like you want to leave, your higher self knows you need to stay to experience what you came down here to Earth to experience.

I felt like I wanted to leave but my higher self knew I should stay so I stayed and faced what I needed to in order to allow my ego to die.

It’s scary because as everything that no longer serves you is falling away you don’t know what lies ahead. The uncertainty of the future makes this time even more difficult. We know things are going to change but don’t know how or often why they are happening.

How to Get Through Dark Night of the Soul

1. Know It Is Temporary

Just like anything in life it is a temporary situation. I know it doesn’t feel like it as it is happening to you, but nothing ever stays completely the same. So, know that no matter how bad it is, things WILL get better.   

2. Sleep

When we sleep we stop momentum, good and bad. Chances are when you are going through Dark Night of the Soul you will want to sleep more as you transition to a new phase in your life.

Your body may require a lot more sleep during this time as it may be exhausted from everything that is going on especially if you aren’t eating much and don’t have as much energy as you usually do.

3. Water

During this time try to get more water in your life, drink it, bathe in it, or sit by a body of water. You can even listen to water sounds, just type it into YouTube and you will find something.

Water clears negativity which will help with this period in your life. Drinking lots of water will keep your body healthy during this transition.

4. Talk to Someone Who is Supportive

If you have a supportive parent, friend, spouse, or spiritual counselor it might help to share what you are feeling. By keeping it all bottled up inside it can make it worse. But only talk to people if you think they will help and understand.

5. Meditate

This is similar to sleeping but you are awake. Meditation helps to stop momentum which can help to relieve some of the pain you are experiencing.

My favorite meditation is by iAwake Technologies. To get 3 Free tracks click HERE.

6. Ask Your Guides to Relieve Some of the Stress at This Time

Your spirit guides are here to help you. If it is too much for you to bear and the process is happening too fast, then ask for their help. They can communicate telepathically so you don’t have to say anything out loud. Ask for some ease and for the process to be slowed down so you can handle it a bit easier.

7. It’s OK to Disconnect from the World During This Period

You need to take care of yourself during this time, so I’d suggest avoiding social media and people who aren’t supportive.

You don’t need to log into Facebook to see other people’s problems or how happy they are right now. It will make you more upset as you are going through this extreme experience. It is perfectly OK to want to be by yourself and take care of yourself during this time.

Bottom Line: Dark Night of the Soul

For anyone who has been through this, you know that you come out of this a stronger person than when you went into it. You know that if you can handle this you can handle anything.

For anyone going through it, know that it is temporary and you will come out of it a much stronger person. The same way a caterpillar dies and transforms into a butterfly, your ego will die and you too will come out of this as a new person.

~Meghan

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