What To Do When You Feel Broken

If you feel broken, understand that you aren’t alone. One time or another we’ve all felt broken. When you are in it, it feels as if you are the only one experiencing such pain and no one else understands what you are going through. But take my word for it, everyone has been there.

So, what do you do when you feel broken inside? It is a super uncomfortable feeling and one in which you wish you can just move past it. You want to feel normal again SO BAD. Below are some tips to help you move forward when you feel broken.

What to Do When You Feel Broken

1. Feel Every Emotion (and Don’t Try to Feel Better)

One of the most important things to do when you feel broken is to not try to feel better. I know that sounds counterintuitive but hear me out.

When you try to force yourself to feel better and you just can’t, you actually feel worse. You feel worse that you can’t force this happiness upon yourself. You might feel like a failure because you already feel bad and you have no idea how to feel better. This can make you feel like a failure. Then you might feel guilty for not feeling good.

There might be a ton of emotions that come up when you try to force a state of being upon yourself that you just can’t reach. Abraham Hicks describes the emotional scale and how to navigate up it. You can’t jump from depression to joy, it simply does not work. You need to move up to frustration first and so on.

The best thing to do when you feel broken is to feel all the emotions that are coming up for you. Feel sad and cry. Crying is a very powerful release. Feel angry and hit a pillow or get in your car and scream. The energy wants to be released and keeping it in will just give you more anxiety and stress.

Let yourself know that it is ok to feel your emotions. Accept your feelings and still love yourself no matter how sad you feel.

2. Ask Your Spiritual Team for Assistance

Something you can do when you feel broken is to ask your spirit guides and angels for assistance. They respect your free will so won’t interfere without your permission unless it is a life or death situation.

If you ask them for help, they will go to work on your behalf. It can be difficult at times to see evidence of them helping you, but it is about trusting that they are.

It might be as simple as them whispering in your ear, go this way not that way. Or they might place someone in your path that can help you after you ask them for assistance.

Most of the time we don’t see how they’ve helped but trust that they have. It doesn’t hurt to ask anyway.

Sometimes it’s nice to just have someone to talk to. Personally, I ALWAYS talk to my guides. I can’t see them, but they do show me many signs that they are here and listening to me. I trust that many things that have helped me came from them.

They are always working on your behalf and there are so many things that they help you with, most of the time without you knowing. So, go to them for support and trust that your request for help is heard and they are working behind the scenes to help you.

3. Talk to a Professional

It is good to talk to someone when you feel broken. Just to have someone listen is a powerful thing. You don’t have to do it alone.

So, whether that is a psychiatrist, a counselor, an intuitive, a hypnotherapist, or whatever professional resonates with you. You know yourself best and who you feel comfortable talking to.

4. Talk to a Trusted Friend or Family Member

Sometimes it is easier to talk to a family member or a good friend when you feel broken. They might have some good advice for you or just offer support when you don’t feel good. People like helping other people, so why not open up. It will also strengthen the bond between you.

5. Go Out into Nature (Especially by Water)

Nature is one of the most healing things you can do for yourself when you feel broken. It can be hard to force yourself to do anything when you are sad, but I guarantee you will feel better if you get out into nature.

Sit by a tree and absorb the fresh air cleansing your soul and spirit. Listen to the birds. Do whatever makes you feel more centered and calmer. Try to get outside every single day.

Water cleanses away negativity so if you can go find a body of water to sit by that is a great benefit. Even better if you can go in the water. It washes away all the junk and gets rid of any negativity. Even washing your hands cleanses away negativity. It is a powerful healer for when you feel broken.

6. Read, Learn & Try to Understand Why

Often, bringing clarity to a situation is enough to heal it. So, ask yourself why do I feel this way? What benefit am I receiving from it?

For example, maybe you just got dumped. The benefits may be that it is allowing room for a different, better person to enter your life. Or maybe it is teaching you about letting go of attachments. Perhaps it is teaching you self-love and how to be strong in your own energy. Or maybe the benefit is that it is giving you fuel to really go out there and change your life for the better.

Look at the benefits, as there always are some. It can be difficult to see in the situation though. Write down all the ways that it is helping you. Put a different perspective on it. Even if it only makes you feel better for a moment, that’s a start.

7. Temporarily Quit Social Media 

When you feel broken, social media isn’t your friend. If you log in and see how awesome somebody else’s life is (while you feel like you’ve been cut through your heart), it will only make you feel worse. You’ll wonder why their life is so easy and why bad things are only happening to you. (It’s not true as you only see certain things in social media, not the full picture). But you get the point.

Disconnect for a bit from other people’s lives. This is a time to go within and heal from the inside, out.

8. Go to a Healer

There are so many different types of healers out there. Pick one that you are drawn to that you will benefit from.

I often find that spiritual healers are great and can put a unique perspective on your situation when you do feel broken. Sometimes they can tap into the energy and see things that you can’t always see when you are in the middle of a situation. They may pick up intuitive information that will be helpful for you to heal and move forward.

9. Read a New Book or Learn Something New

This is one of the best ways to help you through feeling broken. Read a book that relates to your situation. It can teach you so many things and put a different perspective on it. We often go through challenges as a way to learn something new and when you are broken that is the perfect opportunity to dig a bit deeper into your situation.

By reading about your situation from someone who was once there and has overcome it, you can learn how to get through it faster and see what their perspective is.

This kind of information can be beneficial for the rest of your life. You will then be able to navigate through other challenges more smoothly by having this new knowledge you acquired. It is the perfect time to dive into it when you are presently feeling it. Once you are over it then you won’t be as interested in learning about it and may miss the opportunity to learn something new.

Bottom Line: What to Do When You Feel Broken

The best thing you can do for yourself when you feel broken is to allow yourself to heal and go within. Eliminate outside distractions as much as you can and allow this time for you. Feel your emotions and you’ll find you heal much quicker than if you try to suppress them.

It is difficult when you feel broken and don’t know what to do about it and feel as though no one understands your pain. Life is constantly in motion, so understand that this too will pass. You will not feel like this forever.

~Meghan