I’ve seen so many people undervalue themselves (including myself) and not even be aware that they are doing it. Often times we don’t even realize that the actions we are taking to please others are actually undervaluing us and taking energy away from us.
There should be an even amount of exchange of energy between two people, not always one giving and the other one taking. If you are always the one giving, then you are under valuing you own worth and you are getting less than you deserve.
When you are valuing yourself your energy shifts in a way that allows others to value you as well.
All of a sudden, the way you experience your world changes and people act different towards you. How you are valuing yourself and treating yourself is reflected with what you receive back in the outside world.
7 Ways to Start Valuing Yourself
1. Set Healthy Boundaries
Healthy boundaries ensure that someone is not crossing a line that they shouldn’t be. It ensures that someone isn’t taking more than their fair share from you.
For example, when I started this blog, I constantly answered email after email giving away a ton of free advice, as well as giving it all away for free on my blog.
I love doing this, but it was starting to drain my energy. I was so busy, working full time, trying to live my life, and answering emails all the time that I didn’t even have time to have a social life anymore.
One of my coaches pointed out to me that I wasn’t setting boundaries and I had to start charging otherwise it would drain me too much and take too much from me.
If you aren’t setting boundaries and constantly giving, then you will eventually become exhausted and drained. Eventually you won’t be able to give anymore because you aren’t getting anything in return for you time and energy.
This could make you resentful in the long run because you aren’t receiving anything close to what you are giving. This goes for any relationship, business, love, family, etc.
Healthy boundaries ensure that you are comfortable with the energy you are putting out vs what you are receiving back and it is a fairly even exchange of energy.
2. Stand Up for Yourself
Standing up for yourself shows that you are valuing yourself and you aren’t going to let anyone else mistreat you. No one deserves to be treated with disrespect and if that is happening, you value yourself by standing up for you.
If you are worried about what other people will think, you may be surprised at their reaction. They might gain a ton of respect for you if stand up for yourself.
3. Know Your Value is Just as Valuable as Anyone Else’s
One important thing to understand is that no one is more valuable than anyone.
Just because someone who is more successful than you appears to be of higher value, it doesn’t mean they are. It is just a perception, and they are valuing themselves enough to charge more.
It’s ok to charge what you are comfortable with but don’t discount yourself and your talent. You are just as valuable as anyone else and no one should be put on a pedestal.
4. Learn to Say No
This is similar to setting boundaries, but it is basically about not feeling bad when you can’t do something and have to say no.
You can’t be everything to everyone and if you are busy and have to say no, that is ok. No need to feel guilty for putting yourself first to get done what you need to first.
Saying no also means that you don’t have to explain why you are saying no. In fact, you don’t need a reason.
I know many people (including myself) always feel that they need to explain themselves, but you really don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. I mean unless you don’t show up to work for a week without letting your boss know!
5. Charge What You Are Worth
Many people are afraid to charge what they are worth or don’t even know their worth in the first place.
You may think that you won’t get clients if you charge what you want to and what you know you are worthy of. You will get clients and you’ll get the right kind of clients.
If you don’t charge what you are worth, then it won’t be an even exchange of energy and it will drain you. Eventually you won’t be able to help anyone if you are drained.
So, you are really doing your clients a favor by charging what you are worth. This way your energy stays high and motivated and they get the best from you.
6. Be Ok with Some People Not Liking You
Not everyone will like you, that is normal. It is impossible to please everyone.
Just as the quote goes “I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.”
It is literally impossible to please everyone, and it will only make you feel bad to try and accomplish that goal.
It seems often times when you are being true to you and not trying to please everyone, you rattle some cages.
But the people who are truly meant to be in your life will be ok with you being true to you. They won’t care if you are doing things to please them.
Everyone creates their own reality and them not liking you is a reflection of them or something they have going on in their vibration. The only thing to do is to be ok and accept that not everyone will like you.
7. Know That You Deserve Happiness
If you are at a job you hate know that you deserve better.
If you are in a relationship that isn’t valuing you, you have no obligation to stick around.
You deserve to be happy. You don’t deserve to be miserable as some past life karma or even karma from this lifetime.
Everyone deserves happiness and you are no exception. You don’t need to stay with the people and things that aren’t contributing to your happiness.
In Conclusion – How to Start Valuing Yourself
When you are valuing yourself, you take your power back in your life.
If you are constantly giving and letting others cross boundaries, then you will become very exhausted and even possibly resentful. That isn’t good for anyone. These types of emotions can eventually physically impact your health and well being.
When you are valuing yourself, you feel amazing, have lots of energy and other people respect you.
The above steps will ensure you are being true to you and owning your value which will enable you to have a better life experience and more happiness.
What’s one thing you are going to do today to start valuing yourself more?
~Meghan
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