Relationships Are Mirrors – What Is Reflecting Back To You?
One of the greatest things you can learn in life is that relationships are mirrors. They mirror back to you how you are feeling inside and what energy you are giving off. You can’t look in the mirror and frown and have the mirror smile; it is impossible.
This is the same way relationships work. You can’t have bad feelings towards someone and have them absolutely adore you, eventually they will reflect to you what you are feeling inside.
This is an amazing thing to know because you can use it to heal and transform your relationships. It helps you to understand what is really going on and how to move forward to create the best relationships you can.
What You See in Someone Else Is What You See in You
This can be a tricky little thing to wrap your head around; the qualities that you see in someone else are the qualities that you also see in yourself. This includes all the ‘good’ and ‘bad’ qualities. Good and bad are really defined by you. What one person thinks is good, someone else may think is bad.
For example, you may have a co-worker who always stands up for herself and you think this is great. However, your other co-worker thinks it’s annoying and she should just keep her mouth shut.
So, you both are determining whether something is good or bad based on your own personalities. For you who thinks it is good, you see yourself in her. You also have those same qualities and whether you realize it or not, you admire them in you as well. Being around her helps you to bring them out in yourself more.
Your co-worker who thinks it’s annoying also has this quality within himself. However, he doesn’t think it’s one of his good qualities and defines it as bad. Therefore, he likely keeps this quality hidden within himself as to not be ‘annoying.’ But he has the capability to shine that quality and he can define it however he wants to. Right now, to him it’s bad but with some introspection, he can change his thoughts and define it as good.
This person is in your life to mirror something back to you. They are mirroring your own potential or something that you want to change. What you do with it is up to you.
Relationships Are Mirrors – You Have the Power to Change Your Relationships from the Inside Out
Everything that happens in your life is created by you, including how others treat you. If you don’t feel good about yourself then others will do things to show you that. They may be mean, unfair, and make you feel unworthy.
If you love yourself and feel good about being you then the outside world will reflect that to you by being nice, kind, and treating you with respect.
This is a powerful thing to know! Once you start changing how you feel about yourself, the outside world will reflect back to you that new vibration. Think of it as a mirror, everything you do and feel shows up in your outside world as a reflection of that, it cannot be another way.
You have all the power to change how you want the outside world to show up in your experience. You can’t manipulate your circumstances, but you can change how you see yourself and feel about yourself and in turn, your circumstances will change.
How to Understand What the Other Person is Feeling in a Relationship – Relationships Are Mirrors
Relationships are mirrors and the way you feel about someone is eventually how they will feel about you and vice versa.
If you are trying to understand a relationship and how the other person feels, just think about how you feel about them. This goes for all types of relationships, not just romantic ones.
Do you feel resentful towards them? Then eventually they will feel that vibration and reflect it back to you. They are mirroring how you feel.
Do you feel love and excitement towards them? Then eventually they will feel that way towards you, they have to; it is the Law of Attraction. If they don’t, they will fade out of your life. You cannot emit a certain vibration and have someone stay in your life that is emitting a totally different vibration.
Think about when a baby is smiling and laughing around you, how do you feel? You feel happy and loved. You smile back and send them unconditional love and then they feel happy and loved in return.
I know a baby’s smile can change my mood in a matter of seconds. Kids are great for this because they have such a pure, positive vibration.
Or another example is, if you feel like your partner is always working and gives you no attention then you will start to become resentful towards them because they are making you feel unimportant. Eventually, you will do something back to them that is resentful, and they will also feel unimportant to you. Hence, they will feel what you’ve been feeling.
This is a great way to understand how someone feels about you, how do you feel about them? Really dig deep and trust what you truly feel.
I know if I am annoyed with someone, I think “well they are probably annoyed with me too!!” It goes both ways.
How to Use Mirroring to Heal & Transform Relationships
Mirroring is a great and powerful tool to understand because it can help you to heal your relationships.
Let’s say you feel unworthy and that is the vibration you are giving off. Your partner senses this and because of the Law of Attraction, they start to treat you like you aren’t important and you feel even more unworthy than before.
This is a good time to stop and evaluate where this is coming from and how to fix it. If you don’t, it will continue in a vicious circle, with the Law of Attraction reflecting back to you how you feel. It cannot be any other way. Law of Attraction won’t allow it to be.
You can either reflect the horrible feeling of being unworthy back to them and endure a continuous circle of negative behaviors that offer no kind of solution. Or you can do the hard thing and make a conscious effort to change how you feel on the inside and they will eventually reflect that back to you. It can transform your relationship in a much more loving way.
Relationships are Mirrors – What is Reflecting Back to You?
Relationships are powerful tools to show you what you need to work on and what is working well in your life. Relationships are mirrors that reflect back to you what you feel on the inside.
You have all the power because you don’t need to change someone else (and can’t change someone else), you just need to change how you are feeling to change what is reflected back to you in your world. Take a look at the relationships in your life, what are they reflecting back to you?
~Meghan
Wow! What a wonderful interactive dialogue on the subject of others mirroring back to us what we are thinking about ourselves. Thank you for the questions asked and responses given.
This is a truly powerful concept that gives one an immediate way to get a reading on how we are doing on the inside and what we can do to take charge of our feelings, experiences and outcomes. The future is bright! I am delighted, grateful, and enthusiastic about moving forward with my life and into the new territory I am calling my own. 🙂
I’m glad it helped Anita 🙏
~ Meghan
I always had similar questions. For example, if by the law of attraction, you attract a mate, who attracted who first? It really is a chicken and the egg type of question as someone stated earlier lol.
Hi Noreen, great question! You are both attracting each other based on your own energy. So, it is like you are both tapping into the same timeline where each other is.
As soon as person A lines up with with the energy of attracting a person, then all of the people that match that vibration will be shown to her. Same with person B. If they keep that vibration then they will eventually attract each other.
~Meghan
I’m not sure I truly understand the ‘mirroring’ in relationships. I say this because we all have our own personalities, beliefs, etc., and a lot is based on how we see things. Most of how we perceive life is based on our upbringing and our experiences. So, if I’m a more positive, glass half full type of person and someone else is always negative, how is that a mirror reflecting something in ourselves? One person might be able to communicate with others without holding on to it how they’re feeling, and the other person might not be able to do that. They suppress their true feelings but it eventually comes out in more discreet ways such as, sarcasm or jokes, etc. So, how are these personality traits a reflection of ourselves? Obviously, different personalities bring different energies to every relationship.
Hi Nancy,
Great question, thanks for asking it!
Yes, you are absolutely right. How we perceive things is based on our unique perspective. So, when someone shows up a certain way, they are showing up based on our perspective, how we expect them to show up and our energy.
The qualities that you admire in others are often the qualities you admire in yourself and that goes the same with the qualities that you don’t admire with others. Although I know it can be difficult to see that perspective.
Have you ever noticed in a relationship when one person starts to act off or different (even if it’s only perceived that way by the other person) but then the other person will act off? They essentially begin to mirror each other.
Going to your example about the positive person and the negative person. The negative person may be reflecting one aspect to the positive person that they need to work on and look at within themselves. So, the negative person’s whole personality isn’t mirroring the positive person’s but just one tiny aspect in it. The positive person may think they are always positive as well but still have some stuff they need to work on (as we all do.)
It’s all about energy. So, the exact traits may not be mirroring each other (like one is good at communication and the other is bad) but the energy of the two individuals are mirroring aspects of each other to each other.
I hope that makes sense.
Have a great day Nancy 😊
~Meghan
If there are 2 people in a relationship, and each is a mirror to each other, who’s reflecting back to whom? Who’s internal thoughts take precedent in the law of attraction? If both are happy and pleased at that point in time, then that’s easy. If one is sensing distance and pushback, and the other is sensing disinterest or anger, then one reflects that back like you said. But who’s mirror is initiating the distance or anger? It’s the chicken and the egg question.
Great question! Each of them is having their own experience and no one’s energy takes precedence, they are both creating their own experience by how they feel internally. But they will reflect back to the other person what the other person is feeling. For example, let’s say 2 people are happy and then person A begins to feel insecure, jealous, etc. Person B will eventually reflect that back to them (even if it is only the perception of person A who see’s it). So, person B may or may not change but person A perceives them according to how they feel internally. How they are feeling is reflected back to them. That may then cause person A to act different and reflect that back to person B. Person B will perceive how person A is acting by their internal state. So if person B hasn’t changed how they feel, they won’t see that person A is different. But, if they have changed their internal state, they will then perceive person A in the way that they feel. I hope that makes sense! That’s just my thoughts on it 🙂
How do you control the negative thoughts in your head? I know I’m worthy because of the love that I get from people. But sometimes I start to doubt the love. I tend to feel insecure. How do you get over such negative thoughts?
Thanks for the comment Farhan. I find it can often be more difficult to give love to ourselves than another person. A few things to keep in mind:
1. You are worthy – Why? Because you are human and there is no reason why anyone is better than you. I always look at things such as “Am I a good person? Have I done something horrible to not be worthy (and even if you have that does’t make you unworthy), do I do my best everyday? What reason do I have to be unworthy?” This is about understanding that you are just as worthy as anyone else because we are all human and doing the best we can.
2. A good way to stop negative thoughts is to catch them before they get too much momentum. This takes a conscious effort on your part to notice when you are having them and then shift your focus. So, what I do is whenever I start to think something negative about myself, as soon as I notice I’m doing it I’ll get busy doing something else and basically shifting my focus. I could go down that road about all the reasons why a mean comment about me is true but instead the second I catch myself going down that road, I get busy doing something that will take my mind off of it. I literally do not allow myself to think those things. You’ll notice when you start to think the negative thoughts because you will feel uncomfortable or get anxiety. This is your signal to notice what you are thinking and shift it.
So, it is about catching those negative thoughts as SOON as you start to think them and shifting them. It is way easier to stop negative thinking in the beginning stages before it gets a lot of momentum and you have a whole story build up inside your mind. With practise you’ll get better and better at catching those thoughts.
3. Doing things that make you feel good and confident. If you aren’t feeling great about yourself, what are some things you can do that make you feel good? Make a list and do them. I also find people will tend to neglect the things that make them feel good when they are really down on themselves but these things are important. So, maybe you feel good when you do a certain hobby, or visiting a friend? These things all build that self-worth piece.
I hope that helps. I’d say the biggest thing is really catching those thoughts at the early stages and turning them around.
This is great! Thanks for writing and giving a detailed explanation. One of my biggest problems is I hold on to something and keep thinking. Even though it could be something very stupid but I just can’t let go. This is especially when people tell me Or do something that was negative. But I will try and use your method to quickly shift focus.
Your welcome! Yes, I find that is very common.
Just remember the moment you catch yourself thinking something that isn’t helpful, shift your thoughts. It does take some work but the more you practise it, the easier it will be.
Or, if you are holding onto something that you can’t let go of, just imagine cutting any negative ties from that person (or what they said) and floating into the universe to be healed. Imagine the negative thoughts drifting away from you and healing energy floating in. It will help you to release them.
Thanks so much for this incredibly insightful concept Meghan. Very similar to what the great Bashar states: Circumstances don’t MATTER…only state of being MATTERS! Namastè
Your Welcome! Thanks for the comment Gordon. Yes, Bashar is a wise man!
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Thanks for the comment, I’m glad it helped!