I’ve been noticing more and more lately that you can’t force yourself to like everyone and not everyone is going to like you. Maybe you want to because they are a family member, or you work with them or they are in your social circle through mutual friends.
But you cannot be friends with everyone and you can’t force yourself to like everyone in this world.
Not liking someone doesn’t mean that you don’t treat them with respect. You still treat them with respect however, you don’t have to try to force yourself to like them. Here’s why it is NOT possible to like and be friends with everyone and why you shouldn’t try to be.
You Don’t Have to Like Everyone
We get so conditioned to think we have to be friends with everyone we meet. Often, that is not how it goes. It is great to meet new friends, but you don’t have to feel guilty when you don’t click with someone.
Some personalities just don’t mesh well together and that is ok. I think the message that needs to go out into the world is that it is ok to not like everyone, however everyone deserves to be treated with respect and you can still be nice to them.
Why It Is OK to Not Like Everyone
1. Not Everyone Will Like You
It’s nice to think that everyone likes you but that’s not how life works here on earth. I know everyone doesn’t like me. Not everyone’s energies click well together and that is ok.
However, I wouldn’t want someone to throw their dislike in my face. I respect that everyone has their own opinions and as long as they treat me with respect, we will be cool with each other.
It’s kind of the same experience as when you go to a buffet. There is a ton of food there and you aren’t going to like all of it. So, what do you do with the food you don’t like? You leave it alone and don’t put it on your plate. You don’t tell it how gross it is and how you wish it could be something else. The same thing happens in our human relationships. We leave those people alone that we aren’t interested in getting to know more. We don’t say harsh things to them and ask them to be different. It’s perfectly normal to not like every kind of food just like it is normal to not like everyone.
2. You Don’t Need to Be Friends with Someone that Disrespects You
If you meet someone and they disrespect you that is not ok. Maybe it is someone who is a friend of a friend and you are being pressured to be friends with each other. But if you can’t stand being in their presence because they are disrespectful it is ok to NOT be friends with them.
It is ok to not like everyone. Maybe they are disrespectful to you, or to another person. You don’t have to be around anyone that makes you or anyone else feel bad. Especially if you are very respectful to them.
3. Your Energy Doesn’t Mix Well
We all have auras and give off a base energy. Some peoples mix well and others not so much. It’s actually a good thing because you wouldn’t want to hang out with every single person you meet! No one has time for that.
Also, by experiencing people that you don’t resonate with it helps you to define what you do want in a friend. So, if your energies are clearly not jiving there is no point in forcing them to be different. In fact, it is very difficult to try to do that. If your energies just aren’t mixing well, you might be better off trying not to be friends with everyone.
4. You Have Absolutely Nothing in Common
It’s true that opposites can attract but I find it is easier to connect with people who you have a least one thing in common with. When there is one thing you have in common it helps you to relate to each other. It’s great to learn new things from people but it always helps to have things in common too.
If you both could care less about the other person’s interests, it makes it difficult to be connect. It is like trying to fit a square peg into a circle, it doesn’t work. It’s ok to not like someone who you have absolutely nothing in common with.
5. You Are Emotionally on Two Different Levels
If you meet someone who is on a different level than you, it is ok to not be friends with them. Maybe you know them from a common activity or from work and you want to try to make it work. But if every time you have a conversation you feel like you are back in high school, it is ok to not force yourself to be friends with them.
Conclusion: You Don’t Have to Like Everyone But You Can Still Be Nice
There are a lot of people in the world and not everyone is going to like each other. It is ok to not be best friends with someone who you don’t have anything in common with and it is ok to not like someone.
If you are in two completely different places in your life it is difficult to find a connection with each other. If you are getting pressure from a mutual friend to hang out with a certain person who you are clearly very different from, you have no obligation to try to make it work.
Yes, be respectful and nice but you don’t have to be best buddies with someone just because you think it is the right thing to do.
We all share this world and it runs so much smoother when you treat everyone with respect, however there is no rule saying you have to like everyone.
~Meghan
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